Our conversation got me thinking about values. She asked questions like how do you manage social comparison? How do you find self-worth? How do you find your course while in transition? For many of these questions, I thought the Values Card Sort exercise could be helpful.
Another update! Maringa illustrated this beautiful depiction as an answer to our conversation and this post!
The “Personal Values Card Sort” was created by Miller, one of the founders of Motivational Interviewing, along with his colleagues (W.R. Miller, J. C’de Baca, D.B. Matthews, P.L. Wilbourne, University of New Mexico, 2001).
You can download a set of cards here:
How to use the Values Sort Cards:
Print out the pdf and cut each box out. Then use the cards “Important to Me,” “Not Important to Me,” and “Very Important to Me” as column headings. Go through the rest of the cards and place them next to one of the importance cards, as appropriate. Remember, these are YOUR values, not anyone else’s. Next, look at the cards under “Very Important to Me.” Put them in order. Do you have a top three?
The next questions are harder. Are you living your life consistent with these values? Do you have a decision or dilemma that could be informed by your values? Are there changes needed to make in your life be consistent?
If you are stuck or overwhelmed, bringing this to therapy can help!
This instrument is in the public domain and may be copied adapted and used without permission.
39/50 The game of life: values based edition :) . If you’ve ever done any sort of of self help, business building, coaching or workbook then you know that at some point you will have to look at what you value. . What’s great about values is that really do give us a compass to making decisions in our lives. It can show us what’s important, what’s worth spending time on, and how to avoid the comparison trap, because the person you are comparing your self to might hold entirely different values, even ones that contradict yours. . I had a great interview with @burdtherapy about this and so much more, episode due out in a couple weeks but for now, she wrote a great blog post about how to discover your own values I’ll link to it in my website! . . .