Looking for ways to stay balanced and at your best? Abigail Burd, LCSW, San Diego Psychotherapist blogs here to help new parents, educators and helping professionals help themselves and others.

29 03, 2018

Giveaway: 180 Reversible Stroller from Ergobaby

By | 2018-03-29T17:03:44+00:00 March 29th, 2018|Categories: Blog, Giveaways/Free Resources, Maternal Mental Health, Parenting|0 Comments

Here’s something for all the new and expecting parents: a chance to win a brand new 180 Reversible Stroller from Ergobaby. As the name suggests, the 180 switches easily between baby facing the world and baby facing you. Sometimes your kid is inquisitive and wants to see everything, and sometimes they are overstimulated and want the reassurance of you.

Ergobaby 180 Reversible Stroller Giveaway

I’ve teamed up with Baby Birds FarmErgobaby and the adorable family from a House in the Hills to offer this giveaway. You can enter below, or through Instagram @BabyBirdsFarm or @BurdTherapy (no emails needed). Or do both to maximize your chances!

Ergobaby 180 Reversible Stroller Giveaway

28 02, 2018

All Teens Should Be Screened for Depression [TV News Clip]

By | 2018-03-02T18:09:31+00:00 February 28th, 2018|Categories: Blog, Child and Adolescent Therapy, Students|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |0 Comments

The American Academy of Pediatrics announced this week that all adolescents, ages twelve and up, should universally be screened for depression. Yesterday, KSWB in San Diego had me on the morning news again to break down the recommendations on teen depression.

Teen Depression San Diego

Live tv goes fast, so I had one big priority in my head: to share about the crisis text line. Most of the teens I know would feel more comfortable sending a text message than placing a phone call. You can do it privately in a room full of people and no-one would know. I would love for everyone to save the crisis text number now! If you text “HELLO” to 741741, any time of day or night, a volunteer will write back.

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21 01, 2018

Why I’m a Feminist Therapist

By | 2018-01-21T10:51:40+00:00 January 21st, 2018|Categories: Blog, Mental Wellness|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

I’m coming out as a feminist therapist. But it might not be what you think.

feminist therapy san diego

I do not have an agenda to push in therapy. At least not mine. I want to hear your voice. Your story. I’m here to empower you. Do you have a desire or agenda you are afraid to pursue? Let’s see how we can make it happen.

As a feminist therapist, yes, this does mean that I have a special interest in helping women overcome barriers. Have you been socialized to be “nice”? Does this now get in the way of requesting better pay at work? I can help you find a happy balance between pleasing people and meeting your own needs. In fact, having healthy boundaries honors and respects others.

But feminist […]

18 12, 2017

How a Motivational Interviewing Approach to Therapy Can Help You

By | 2017-12-18T11:03:30+00:00 December 18th, 2017|Categories: Addiction, Blog, Child and Adolescent Therapy, Mental Wellness, Supervision|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

Hi all! In this dispatch from the Evolution of Psychotherapy, I spent the morning hearing from the founder of Motivational Interviewing, one of my go-to approaches since 2002. I wrote this post to introduce potential clients to a great way to get unstuck and move forward. Blog readers might recognize MI from this post on Value Sort Cards.

It is human nature to try to fix others. We love to point out what they need. Bill Miller, the founder of Motivational Interviewing (MI), calls this a “righting reflex.” We naturally want to make things right.

The problem is that most people come to therapy ambivalent. That means feeling conflicted about something, seeing both the good and bad about it, or feeling stuck. Raise your hand if you already know rationally some change you should […]

14 12, 2017

Sue Johnson, EFT and Dance: Why Couples Therapy is a Tango

By | 2017-12-14T21:56:39+00:00 December 14th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Couples/Marriage Therapy|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

Hi all! Another dispatch from the Evolution of Psychotherapy. This time, Sue Johnson shares how attachment science can shape corrective emotional experiences in couples therapy.

When she is not training 3,000 people each year in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Sue Johnson is dancing. Specifically, she dances the Argentine tango ten hours a week.

tango couples therapy

Not surprisingly, she sees relationships — the connection, the conflict, and the disconnect – as a dance.

The NY Times once compared couples therapy to “piloting a helicopter in a hurricane.” The dirty little secret of many therapists is that they do not like doing couples therapy. They are scared it will inevitably end in fighting. Sue disagrees. Couples therapy is more a safe, comfortable Air Canada flight. There may be some turbulence, but […]

13 12, 2017

Helping Couples Recover From Infidelity

By | 2017-12-14T21:03:21+00:00 December 13th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Couples/Marriage Therapy|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

Hello everyone! I’m at the Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference this week. I’ll be sharing some of the best things I’ve learned here. In this post: Infidelity. If you are a therapist or therapy student, I hope you will pick up a few skills. If you are a prospective therapy client in San Diego, email me or call if you are curious about talking more about infidelity one on one or as a couple.

“When staying together after an affair makes you a warrior not a doormat…”

Infidelity Therapy San Diego

First, I heard from Michele Weiner-Davis, LCSW, about recovering from infidelity. You may know her from the “Sex Starved Marriage” book and this TED talk.

She is also known for “

8 12, 2017

When Holiday Stress Gets You Down, Turn It Around

By | 2017-12-08T10:56:46+00:00 December 8th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Mental Wellness|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

Sometimes the most wonderful time of the year is anything but. Today, writer Jennifer Scott shares a guest post on how to get through holiday stress and avoid feeling overwhelmed.

Ah, the holidays. That delightful time of year when we all put aside our differences and peace on Earth prevails. Or not. While the time between New Year’s day and Halloween is fairly uneventful, we’re expected to put on a happy face from the stroke of midnight on the 305th day of the year until the week after Santa’s annual appearance. But when you have a mental health condition, such as anxiety, depression, or PTSD, that’s not always possible.

when holiday stress gets you down

Here are a few tips on how to keep holiday stress at bay:

Stop […]

28 11, 2017

How to Use Pixar’s Coco to Teach about Death [Cinematherapy Guide]

By | 2017-11-28T21:34:21+00:00 November 28th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Grief/Loss|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments

“The word death is not pronounced in New York, in Paris, in London, because it burns the lips. The Mexican, in contrast, is familiar with death… jokes about it, caresses it, sleeps with it, celebrates it. It is one of his favorite toys and his most steadfast love.” -Octavio Paz

Disney Pixar Coco Cinematherapy Guide

About Coco

Disney/Pixar’s latest movie, “Coco” delivers a beautiful animated tale, centered around the Mexican holiday, the Day of the Dead (El Dia de los Muertos). I’ve tried not to include any spoilers or reveal too much about the plot.

If you have seen my “Inside Out” Study Guides for teaching teens and children about emotions, you will know I am a fan of cinematherapy. In my psychotherapy practice in San Diego, […]

5 11, 2017

My Concern with Wine Mom Memes

By | 2017-11-05T20:43:25+00:00 November 5th, 2017|Categories: Addiction, Blog, Maternal Mental Health, Mental Wellness, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

There’s something about the “wine mom” memes and Pinterest posts that have always made me uncomfortable. As an addiction specialist and a postpartum specialist, I have been curious about the intersection for some time.

wine mom memes

In fact, a recent op-ed on CNN looks at the coinciding rise of the “wine mom” in popular culture and a rise in high-risk and problem drinking. And a recently published study in JAMA Psychiatry tracks a rise of 83.7% in problem drinking in women between 2002 and 2013. That’s a lot!

For more explanation, I recommend having a read here.

As I say this, I will fully admit that sharing a glass of wine with a baby group after my first was born brought me a lot […]

11 09, 2017

[Giveaway] Carry Baby Close to Your Heart

By | 2017-09-11T22:39:58+00:00 September 11th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Giveaways/Free Resources, Maternal Mental Health|0 Comments

Win a new Ergobaby Omni 360 Baby Carrier

Ergobaby Omni 360 forward facing baby carrier

New babies take just about everything out of parents. They need to be cared for around the clock. Then how do you manage to do everything else you need to do? I always recommend babywearing. A good baby carrier is much more comfortable than holding baby in your arms, and frees up your hands. I’m teaming up with Ergobaby, Baby Birds Farm and Cocina, and Alysha Rainwaters Photography to raffle off a new Ergobaby Omni 360.

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Hop over to Baby Birds Farm for a full review of this new carrier, which converts from newborn to […]